This interview is the second of a two-part interview series by theo james, where he talks about how he uses a few simple tools to help him manage his anxiety.
Theo james is an anxiety sufferer, who was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and is currently in remission. So he’s been able to come out of the closet and become a therapist in a big way. He’s also done a great job at making theo james.com a place for all kinds of people to come and visit, and it’s definitely helped to make his podcast a great place to listen to.
Of course, anxiety is a very dangerous place to be on the internet. I know I have been there many times, and I feel pretty bad about it. But I also know that anxiety, like depression, is an illness. Theo james has a name for it; he calls it the “cognitive defensiveness” disorder. I believe that’s the best term he can come up with.
This is a disorder where people are afraid to admit to themselves, and others, that they have a problem and need help. Usually this is because they feel that others will think less of them or think that they are a failure if they admit that they have a problem. This is a huge problem because it can cause a lot of depression and a lot of anxiety.
I think the cognitive defensiveness disorder is the most important thing that I can think of that may prevent someone from disclosing a problem to a friend, family member, or colleague. People who have this disorder are afraid of showing their weaknesses, because they believe that they will be judged. In reality they may be judged for what they are, because that’s how this disorder functions. In a way, it is a form of self-imposed shame.
I had a friend last year who talked about feeling that she was going to hell and that she might die. She thought she was a good person and that she was going to heaven, but it was just like being on a roller coaster in the beginning. Her friend gave her a lot of advice, but was a little bit shocked when she told her she was going to hell.
In the case of the disorder we are talking about, it is not a good thing. It is because the disorder is a form of self-imposed shame that people are judging those who they think are going to hell. There are some people who are so determined to not let the disorder rule their lives that they end up in hell, or worse, they become a part of hell, because they can’t stop telling themselves they are going to hell.
In this interview with theo james, he was asked about his feelings toward the disorder. He said that his feelings about the disorder are not that bad; they are just that he was afraid of it and to lose it to something that was bad, which was always going to be bad. He also said that he was a bit ashamed of the disorder, which is definitely a bad thing.
He also gave us the reasons why he was very bad about the disorder.
Theo James is a writer and editor. He has written and edited for dozens of magazines and newspapers since 1985. He is a regular contributor to the New York Times, Slate, and many other publications. He also has his own blog, TheoJame, which has over a 1.5 million visitors per month. He is a member of the National Academy of Letters.